Doormat Syndrome: When to Say No

Are You A Doormat?

You usually look forward to your intimate love sessions with your partner. But tonight, you just don't feel that sexy. He's all hot and heavy. Should you tell him to back off?

• Yes
• No

Your mother leaves a phone message while you’re at a business conference. Do you call her back right even though you don’t have the time?

• Yes
• No

Your guy is complaining about his boss -- again. You're feed up with him for not giving you peace after a long day, but isn't it more important to lend a supportive ear?

• Yes
• No

You earn more money than one of your close friends, and you've gotten into the habit of treating her to little favors like dinners out. Now she expects it. Is it time to time to shut your wallet?

• Yes
• No

Your sister regularly asks you to watch her kids. But they broke some of your favorite things recently. Is it time to find a fast excuse to get off the hook?

• Yes
• No

You have a dinner date with a friend, but another friend calls, demanding you come over because she just broke up with her boyfriend. Should you?

• Yes
• No

You’re swamped at work. Then, a co-worker asks you to pick up an extra shift -- her kid is in a school play. It's not your problem, right?

• Yes
• No

A parent of one of your children's friends wants you to make something the school bake sale. Tomorrow. Will declining destroy your reputation as a "helper mom?"

• Yes
• No

You’ve been seeing a therapist for years, but don’t have much more to talk about anymore. Your psychologist, however, says quitting means you're avoiding your deeper problems. Do you walk away?

• Yes
• No

Your throat has been sore for a week. During the exam, your physician tells you that you also need more tests. It feels like they're unnecessary, but doesn’t the doctor know best?

• Yes
• No

Your mother is in assisted living. Every weekend you check on her. But you're going away and want your sister to check in. "She'll be fine," is her reply. Is it time for a guilt trip?

• Yes
• No